Are you and MWD suggesting that we allow our wives to sleep with other men?
I am no expert by any means, but I will say this. Do we allow it? We are talking about another human being. One with free will. Able to make their own choices. We don't allow them to do anything.
So what can we do? We can choose not to put up with it and move on. We can choose to accept the fact that we do not control their actions and only our own. We can choose to stand for our M or not. We can choose to drink a beer or a glass of wine. We cannot choose our W's behavior for them.
We have many choices in these situations. But one thing we do not have is control over another human being. No one is saying we need to "put up with it." We all make our own choices how to behave under these tough circumstances. We choose what we believe is right.
We allow ourselves how to behave. What you allow for yourself is up to you.
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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
