I may get shot down for saying this, but it sounds like your H has been getting the best from both his worlds. He's sleeping with two women and not having the responsibility of marriage! That would be called cake eating in my book.

Now, let me ask you a personal question. Why is it so hard for you to not have sex with him? Are you that "sexual" that you desire the act of having sex.....or do you need the affection & closeness of your H? Is it the attention or something else? Plus, you never said if you were insisting he use protection....and if he's not, you are taking a risk with your life.

Quote:
"It's good to see you happy...I guess I was bringing you down!"

"looking that good it will not take long for someone to snatch you up"


He says those things b/c he wants you to argue and say, "Oh, no....you don't bring me down, that's not why I'm happy. I'm happy b/c you saw fit to throw me a few crumbs". "No, nobody will snatch me up b/c I'll never love anyone the way I love you."

I can't say what I'd really like to tell you b/c I'd get deleted. I just hope you will be able to see through what he's doing and start feeling like you are more valuable than SECONDS! He should be treating you like his queen instead of giving you left-over sex-making. Does that speak of honor and cherish?

Sweetheart, please know that I'm not trying to see how tacky I can be, and I'm not trying to cause more confusion for you. If you were my daughter, this is the what I would have told you......plus a whole lot of other stuff.

I think if you will work on your self-esteem and having a life that doesn't "depend" on him, you'll see a big diference.

This is JMO. I hope you'll come back and stay with us.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!