I wouldn't count on this being a test from your H, but you will be sorely tested on this journey....if you decide to work to save the M.
You sound like a spunky gal to me, and I like that! I bet you are a survivor too. You will learn the tools you'll need in that DR book and you'll get the support you need here on the board. I hope you'll stay with us.
I read something in your post that I could identify with you. You said, "Hard emotional decisions have to be made by me". He told you everything was up to you, like it always had been. I know how that feels. Over time, it does take a toll on a woman and you have to be the strong one and take care of "everything".
Come talk to us as often as you can.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
