And so I begin this journey

[ninelives]

Welcome croppin. Hang on tight because if your husband is truly in a MLC, you will experience things that Rod Serling would have been proud to produce.

The key for you is how do you navigate this. Check in often, post , journal whatever you feel but do check here alot.

I m certainly not a vet yet but I am learning. Great at giving advice but not really good at following some of the advice.

Here I believe are the most important things about DBing.

1) Learn all the lingo on this site so you can understand.
2) NEVER react with emotion. That is where I have done most of my mistakes. Let time pass before responding where possible.
3) Listen to the VETS. Even thought you know your husband best and every sitch as a life of its own, dont dismiss the wisdom of many people on this board as they have been through it before and some continue.
4) Give up only when you feel it is time to do so. Dont listen to friends and family that dont know what you want. Nobody on this board will judge you and tell you to give up on your marriage, they will tell you things that sound counter intiuitive but only you know when enough is enough.
5) Dont take things peronally here. Nobody is trying to hurt your feelings but unlike your friends, sometimes its important to be told like it is whether you like it or not.

All the best to you Croppin,

You will hear from more people and BTW, I know you are new and probably feel intimidated giving advice, but the more interest you take in other peoples threads the more you will get back.

Its almost like real life, the more you give the more you receive.

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