you are not - you're seeing results and doing great things. Confrontation also didn't really work in my experience -
AJM,
I thought I'd followed your sitch from the start, even tho I rarely post to you (I'm on "full moderation," so by the time my posts show up, they're usually several pages upthread and don't get seen, so I usually don't bother), but I'm not recalling this. In fact, I just went back and read your first few pages of posts, and you said you were "being nice to him," he'd come and go as he pleased, even going up into your bedroom and stuff.