I was thinking of her being only 80% sure she wanted out. Reminded me of the old Pareto Principle - or 80/20 rule - where 80% of the effects come from only 20% of the causes. If she's only 80% ready to leave, then focus on the 20% that causing her to feel this way. A 20% change isn't all that much, when you think about it.
Absolutely. I was so chuffed when the counsellor asked how sure she was and she gave reasons of "not feeling in love" which turns out mainly to be about desire, and "not seeing a future for us together anymore" and couldn't think of anything else. The counsellor said "Is that all? That's not much for 80% sure and can all be fixed." I wanted to jump up and shout "YES!"
Reality is that which, if you don't believe in it, doesn't go away.
