Standing up to the punches

[Redo]

I think very rarely have i ever stood up for myself like this and opposed her directly. It feels extremely weird and I feel very bad like i am hurting her. I mean i know that right now my wife is trying to fleece me, but still i have this incredible guilty feeling like i am abandoning her. I have to learn to recognize where i am digging a grave for myself first.

[edited by dbmod: reference is not recommended nor allowed] I'll venture to guess, like me, you'll sit there wondering how this guy pegged you.

You have issues you need to address.

Yup, I have that book and read it. Yea first time i gave me a shock as to the way i was behaving with my wife. But i guess 11 years of being the same way still has its residual effects on me. I am learning to go away from that mode and stand up. Thanks!