It's Time To Rock; Part II

[gr8 day 2B alive]

Great post PEI.
I remember those days, now I'm so much stronger and confident.
If I met my W for the first time out some where, I wouldn't even consider her a possible interest. I am waayyyyy out of her league now.

Good grief! There is enough moping about going on these days without taking Country's happy post and sad-sacking all over it.

Listen guys ... I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, and please remember that I have been where you are ...

You didn't die. Your life is not over. Your value is not tied to someone else's actions or feelings. Your spouses have make some really chitty decisions and yes, it suck$ right now and it hurts. The reality is, only you determine how long you feel that way. YES, this is true. I know you don't believe it, right now you're probably thinking "No, she does. Cause if she came back I wouldn't feel like this anymore." I heard it here, and I've repeated it more than once ... if she came back now and you hadn't done the work ... where do you think you'd end up? How real would your changes be? How emotionally ready to possibly forgive and work towards healing would you be?

Most of us just want them back in the beginning out of desperation, fear, insecurity ... we don't put enough time into thinking about how READY we would need to be to actually begin the piecing process. You think the bomb is hard? You think being separated is hard? Well, what I've heard is that piecing is harder ... but worth it

Oh, and as a side note... How attractive is a moping, sad sack, whose sense of self worth is tied to whether or not someone else wants him?

Ever hear of the law of attraction? Well, all those negative, self defeating vibes that get chucked out into the universe aren't gonna help. Figure out your "why"s, dig into your stuff ... leave her to hers.

Think gratitude guys. And yes, I put my money where my mouth is ... I did this, and I did it early. Dig through my threads, you'll see it. Every day, find something to be grateful for ... and don't qualify or analyze it to death.

Me? Today I am grateful for the opportunity to pay it forward.

Now, get back to work

Peace
PEI

To comment back about the your spouse being passed away, I am saying you would be a great dad to your child. We get to teach our child relationship skill that our parents didn't show us. Be gratefule for the opportunity to break the cycle of bad R in your family.

Boundaries are good to have. I have thought my kids about them and they express they feelings freely now.
just last week my S3, said to me after I yelled at him....
I don't like being talked to that way.
I was proud of him for expressing how he feels.