Lookin' Back

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Simple hard to follow advice.

"so OM was upset last night, huh?"

She already told you last night.

Don't bring him up.

We want that validation, we really really want it to make sure that f-er is 6 feet deep, and maybe jump up and down on the grave too.

Bringing him up, reminders her of the hurt she caused, reminds her of him. Instead of having a nice day together she enjoys.

Plus it can be seen as a victory lap.

We don't care that he gets hurt, in fact lets be honest, we sort of enjoy it. Serves him right. Can I get an Amen?

But...she was a part of that, too, we tend to over look that part. Twist the knife and she feels it too.

[Denver_2010]

"so OM was upset last night, huh?"

She already told you last night.

Don't bring him up.

We want that validation, we really really want it to make sure that f-er is 6 feet deep, and maybe jump up and down on the grave too.

Bringing him up, reminders her of the hurt she caused, reminds her of him. Instead of having a nice day together she enjoys.

Plus it can be seen as a victory lap.

Hmmm... I didn't see anything wrong with me saying that until I just read this post. You are absolutely right Jack. And you are also right about it being about my own need for validation. Thanks for that.

We don't care that he gets hurt, in fact lets be honest, we sort of enjoy it. Serves him right. Can I get an Amen?

AMEN!!

BITS
Denver

[Truegritter]

Can I get an Amen?

Amen.

she was a part of that, too, we tend to over look that part.

And Amen.

You are doing great Denver.

At some point the water meets the weed line (fishing term)

Translation: She has got to meet you half way.

In time.

[♪CS♪]

I am going to misquote the hell out of it but there is something in the book about "I am not an expert on what works, but I know what doesn't work"


That's really what it comes down to. In then end, some M will be saved, some won't. We don't have a magic bullet for what works, we are simply not trying to dig our own graves by doing what doesn't work.

Denver, what your doing is working. I agree that very cautious optimism is warranted. But that is what I see. Just remember what you learned and you'll be fine.

[FellOnBlackDays]

Denver,
Your progress is nothing short of amazing. MWD should let you conduct a seminar on this thing. I am truly happy for you. You and I started this thing together and at least one of us is going to finish.

Please be careful. Please continue to focus. This really is the much harder part of your journey. She is going to take a chance on you. She is going to gamble her heart on Denver one more time. Don't make her regret her choice, OK? Be that new guy you have shown us each and every day. Be the champ that you are for her and for us.

BITS never walk alone!

FOBD

[dbmod]

At the risk of being unkind...AMEN!

[Still learning]

AMEN!!

[hope2011]

Just catching up. Really proud of you, Denver, keep up the good work!

[Denver_2010]

Thanks everyone for sticking with me. I know that I need to update. I think that I have writer's block! LOL...

Update coming soon.

BITS
Denver

[LITB]

Glad to see you around Denver. I'm looking forward to your update and happy to see you having success.