I did wonder about guilt being a factor, but felt that he might have moved on from this after nearly 6 years.
Yes, the way I fed him [extremely healthy diet btw] contributed to his existing health problems, but funny he was never sick when we were together . . . .His problems started about 2-3 years after he left.
Most other MLCers just don't seem as nasty as ours, although MissH had a pretty awful one . . . I agree about the hurtfulness of the hostility. The betrayal was bad, but the hatred . . . . means any kind of dialogue is impossible. All the standard DBing doesn't work. I tried 'I am sorry you feel that way', and got a 5 minute diatribe. We are told to listen but hearing how awful I was again and again was just distressing. He never moved on but made up more and more improbable stories which had a tiny grain of truth in them . . . . and so on!
