JMHO, but here I am at this unGodly hour, awake for some reason, pondering the same things. I believe most of my H's hostility stems from overwhelming guilt. He has to find a reason to justify his treatment of me, so he has demonized me. He even made the comment to our DIL "I don't want you to hate B_____", to which she replied, "Why would we? She didn't do anything?"
In his history rewrite, he has made me the cause of every thoughtless thing he ever did. His neglect of his sons when they were little, even though he knows I urged him to take an active part in their lives. His excuse at the time was their mother.
I attempted to get him to seek help for his PTSD, which embarrassed him in front of his Army buddies, ( Big Deal )On and On. I'm sure the pickled okra I made for him every summer was jam packed with hallucinogenics. LOL
Thing is, his hostility is the part that hurts most though; even more than his betrayal.
