Does anyone have a view on why some MLCers are in a state of pretty much unwavering hostility to their [ex]spouse? While others can remain mostly civil, and in their own way, even attempt to be kind after a few years?
And how do you deal with unwavering hostility? I have experienced it for nearly 6 years, and although I have broken off all contact, because it wasn't doing me any good, and with adult children I didn't need it, I am aware from my children's occasional comments [although they have minimal contact] that he is still deeply hostile to me. They find it incomprehensible and hurtful too.
Do I need to understand this hostility? Well, I find that knowing about MLC actually helps me deal with my own journey. It doesn't for some, I know.
I am as OK with this as I think I can be [I was married to the guy for a very long time] and definitely have a life, but I still find it puzzling that he seems to dislike me so very deeply, and resents the fact that I am living and breathing. Probably projection . . . . . .
