Good grief! There is enough moping about going on these days without taking Country's happy post and sad-sacking all over it.
Listen guys ... I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, and please remember that I have been where you are ...
You didn't die. Your life is not over. Your value is not tied to someone else's actions or feelings. Your spouses have make some really chitty decisions and yes, it suck$ right now and it hurts. The reality is, only you determine how long you feel that way. YES, this is true. I know you don't believe it, right now you're probably thinking "No, she does. Cause if she came back I wouldn't feel like this anymore." I heard it here, and I've repeated it more than once ... if she came back now and you hadn't done the work ... where do you think you'd end up? How real would your changes be? How emotionally ready to possibly forgive and work towards healing would you be?
Most of us just want them back in the beginning out of desperation, fear, insecurity ... we don't put enough time into thinking about how READY we would need to be to actually begin the piecing process. You think the bomb is hard? You think being separated is hard? Well, what I've heard is that piecing is harder ... but worth it
Oh, and as a side note... How attractive is a moping, sad sack, whose sense of self worth is tied to whether or not someone else wants him?
Ever hear of the law of attraction? Well, all those negative, self defeating vibes that get chucked out into the universe aren't gonna help. Figure out your "why"s, dig into your stuff ... leave her to hers.
Think gratitude guys. And yes, I put my money where my mouth is ... I did this, and I did it early. Dig through my threads, you'll see it. Every day, find something to be grateful for ... and don't qualify or analyze it to death.
Me? Today I am grateful for the opportunity to pay it forward.
Now, get back to work
Peace PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
