Question about last resort

[cat04]

So I'm supposed to just sit back and "love her" by letting her does who knows what with whoever? I don't know that I am strong enough to accept that. I know I am not. To let her find herself other than that for sure.

Paper,

First of all...

Let her?

Can you even control it? Do you dictate her actions?

If you do, I can see why she would not want to be married anymore...

Control is control no matter what color you try to paint it...

Her having an A, may not be fair to you...

You treating her like property, isn't really fair to her...

I get all of that fully giving her space and time but never if it includes giving her space to try try other relationships to see how she feels about it and then allow her to come back to me

So you can do this if she only gives you what YOU want and not what she wants?...

I do love her deeply and am willing to put up with alot of her finding herself but if it extends to her fooling around emotionally or otherwise that is my limit. NO WAY I could accept her pursuing him any further than she has and not feel pure betrayal and hatred for her more than I do.

If you already feel hatred for her then maybe you need to reexamine your love for her.

It is with conditions apparantly.

Not the kind of love I would want to have in my life again.

Just to be clear. I would never ever go out in her unless we were totally done. Not in my character. I would never so what she has done. Ever.

Hope the landing from the soapbox isn't too hard for you...

Paper,

We never know what life is going to throw at us.

We don't know until we are faced with an actual situation, how we will handle it, how we will react...

If you want to really make an effort to save your marriage, or not have a future relationship go sour...

You need to change your though patterns...

Dealing in nevers, always, and superior thinking, will only get you back here.