I was little different than I am now, except for living alone rather than in a house with a fabulous woman.

I'm not any different - even she has said that.

Prior relationship was 3 yrs - she had the affair just a very short time after we got married.

This one only about a year in total. I know it is short. But I do know the difference betweene something important and the average 6 month fling.

I've booked another counselling session in the hope she might attend. I've sent her an email explaining why I got so upset and acknowledging that work commitments are huge for her at the moment.

I have 2 more house viewings on Monday and Tuesday after the weekend of working nights. Not much more else I can do after that except move out and drop the rope and hope she realises what a great opportunity she's missed and someone else will have I guess.

Reality is that which, if you don't believe in it, doesn't go away.