Sitting at home with myself, part 2

[Navyguy]

I struggle internally with the fact that W is back in person, but not emotionally. The hardest thing to understand right now is why she still says she came back for the kids, not for us (meaning: I don't want to work on things between us). She can't want to live like this for the rest of her life...

Just like you said Harrier, building the friendship is my goal right now. Maybe a good way to look at it is that she's back enough emotionally to be a friend and that allows her to work on getting to the point where she can emotionally be a W.