I will think about "who I am". I think posting that up here will help me.
As far as not being angry and bitter. I don't know how else to let her go, and move on, other than to shut her out of my life emotionally. I would bet if I had a love interest on the side, it would be easy to forget her (like she has me). But I have more morals and character than that, so I will not and would not. Suggestions how to move on without using my anger to emotionally separate from her?
Due to our having to move back this summer, we have to make plans for moving, kids school, her job (which was in the cards when we got back anyway, has nothing to do with the R), etc. So we have no choice but to have to make the plans to move home and not just be (and not steer the ship). I have no choice in that, because either I engage and do what is best for me and kids, arrange my job, etc, or else I will come home one day and she will have left, and gone home with the kids.
So once we move home, What then? If I just let things be and we don't discuss anything, then she will be the OM when we are home (where he is), and move out as soon as she finds a house.
I am not saying you are wrong to just "be", anything but that. However I just don't see in my sitch how we cannot have to discuss these things, and make plans due to unique situation.
Harrier - agreed on the separation - the only separation that can work is one with rules. If she refuses even the basic set of rules, well, I guess there is my answer. Last she told me she would not see the EA/OM until we were not living together. Somehow that tells me she is intent to see him after she moves out, but I have not yet broached that subject (but I will have to before the day we move home).
Thanks all. I really am not trying to shoot down what I read, I really am taking it in. As you would expect my mind is very muddy these days, and hard to think clearly. I am a very organized logical (and now crazy horny) man. This is about the hardest type of situation for me to deal with, since it is all emotion.
