I think people really underestimate how hard it is once the S decide to come back, either in person and/or emotionally. We think, well if they just show me something I won't get impatient and everything will be wonderful. But it doesn't work like that.
Plus you end up feeling somewhat guilty because a lot of great people here never get that chance.
However, the first few weeks/months are the hardest by far. You can succeed. Know that you may have slip ups and back slides, a back slide doesn't mean you are back to square 1.
Know that it's a fluid environment, just when you think you have your expectations at bay, you W will throw something at you. It hard because you have a long history with your W.
Right now the goal should be to build your friendship.
Also jack gave me a great piece of advice. Remember, she will be watching you. Watching to see if the changes are for real. I don't give her a reason to doubt.
I think you will be much better at this than I am.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
