I have read through your thread. A few things jump out at me right off the bat…
Originally Posted By: DG
I don't know what the future holds for me, but I do know that with all the people who do love me, I will never be alone.
DG—when you are happy with YOU, when you love and forgive yourself, when YOU can make yourself happy, then you will never be alone…
Even if there is not another soul walking the Earth…
Do NOT depend on other people for your happiness…
Originally Posted By: DG
I know he doesn't want a D-at least right now but I don't feel like we are close to reconciling either. I know I need to be patient, and I am trying my best to be, but this really [censored]. If he could just tell me that he wants me, he wants our marriage but he just isn't ready to come home yet, it would mean more than anything in the world.
I find comfort in his words. He tells me he loves me, he misses me, but then why won't he come home?
Reading through your thread…
I knew this was coming. He probably feels it too…
If he says that he wants to work on the M, gives you any encouragement at all, it won’t be enough for you…
Then the big question in bold will be asked…
DG, you have the right idea. You have a good intellectual grasp on what you should be doing. However I see very little in the way of you actually doing anything to try to change your behavior. I see you sitting and waiting to feel better. I see you sitting and waiting for HIM to do something to make you feel better.
Counseling is great, but it can become a crutch. You can talk until you are blue in the face…
Until you change your actions, your behaviors…NOTHING is going to be different…
DG, what are some concrete small actions that you can take to improve your life?
You may have had gastric bypass, but you are continuing to live as a person who is trying to lose weight without really doing anything to make it different…
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
