now I have a very stupid question here. How long do I continue to do this work with the M or R in question?
She's trying to get a dissolution as fast as possible. I still don't want this to end but I literally have no say in it. It's going to happen no matter what. I do it now, I have some dignity..well, maybe not but I can have a bit more money. The longer it goes, the more impossible it becomes.
Or do I simply split things, separate and wait for her to file in 6 months?
I'm truly at a dilemma. I'm still processing. There are times I don't want her. I can't stand her but then I think of what I could have done and what I wanted to do and just HOW CLOSE it seemed we were to really making this work.
Maybe I'm still not at the step to make a decision...I don't know.
m 40 w 38 married 15 together 18 d11, d8 bomb 12/19/10 2nd bomb 3/30/11 COMPLETELY DONE
I hear you and understand how unique that pain is. Coupled with all the self inflicted pain about being naive and a fool.
It is easy to walk through hell, take a moment to think about that...walking through hell, not just a hard time, not just a ohhh we might not have enough money to cover bills for this month, but hell.
It is easy to walk through hell FOR your wife if you know she'll walk back out with you.
It is HARD to walk through hell FOR yourself, not knowing if your wife is going to walk back with you, or even if your going to find her.
IF this is a Life Crisis (MLC)
Your wife the one you love, she still exists, are you going to let this bittch prevent you from being there for her?
Can't rescue her from herself. You can however be there went she needs a hand up. You put a timeline on it?
And you should save yourself from what you will come to believe is 'wasted time.'
Time by the way is only wasted... If YOU waste it.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
I hear you and understand how unique that pain is. Coupled with all the self inflicted pain about being naive and a fool.
It is easy to walk through hell, take a moment to think about that...walking through hell, not just a hard time, not just a ohhh we might not have enough money to cover bills for this month, but hell.
It is easy to walk through hell FOR your wife if you know she'll walk back out with you.
It is HARD to walk through hell FOR yourself, not knowing if your wife is going to walk back with you, or even if your going to find her.
IF this is a Life Crisis (MLC)
Your wife the one you love, she still exists, are you going to let this bittch prevent you from being there for her?
Can't rescue her from herself. You can however be there went she needs a hand up. You put a timeline on it?
And you should save yourself from what you will come to believe is 'wasted time.'
Time by the way is only wasted... If YOU waste it.
English please...
Maybe I'm having a really really blonde day...
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
