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Hi
I'm new to this forum but have found comfort in reading Michele's Divorce Remedy. I was given the book as I've found out recently that H has emotional relationship with co-worker. H still insists he's helping her. Would leave if not for children. Am now not on talking terms and doubting if I'll be happy staying married.

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Welcome. Sorry you are here, but you will find lots of good advice from folks in similar situations. If you tell us more about your situation you'll get more advice and thoughts on the newcomers board.




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Would leave if not for children. Am now not on talking terms and doubting if I'll be happy staying married.


Are you saying that "you" would leave or is he saying that?

Please continue to read more about DR techniques and come back to post.


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Am now not on talking terms


I'm going to suggest that, uhhh that's not going to help. Without knowing more.

You're not talking to him...so

who is he going to talk to?

Vicious cycle.



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Could you give more information?
We might be able to help.....


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Thanks for your feedback. I am the one ready to leave. H thinks I'm over reacting and that I'm being negative.

I think I'm unable to get past the pain of betrayal and try to make things better when H does not feel that he's done anything wrong.

The incident has woken me up to our unresolved differences over the years and I'm pretty sick and tired of them and therefore, am sure I am better off on my own.

Even so, I'm keeping my head by reading DR and trying not to act rashly.


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