Calm down girl! You're as anxious as a cat in a room full of rocking chairs. What, exactly, is it that you think you did wrong? It sounds to me he's as mixed up as he ever was, and still blaming you for the situation he finds himself in. As for his family, if he can't man up to them, you've lost nothing.
He is not only drawing you back on his roller coaster, he's tied you on and dragging you behind it. It he wanted to come home two months ago, and now denies it, what do you think would have happened if you had let him come home?
Mr. Bond is right. No contact is the best contact. Let him blow in the wind. How long before his family becomes sick and tired of his wishy-washy attitude? Go so dark you can't see your hand in front of your face. It will bring you peace and time for healing; allow your daughter some healing time.
If he wants to play drama queen, let him have the whole stage, but you don't have to participate. Set your boundaries, and be fierce about them.
You are in the room with a gut shot ape. Back away slowly to the door. (((HUGS)))
