I have been maried for 16 years. As any marriage, we have had our ups and downs. 4 years ago my husband cheated on me. It wasn't sexual, only emotional but still tore my heart. I got through that and worked at our marriage. We had recovered and things were good. One day, 6 months ago, my husband tells me he is not sure if he is in love with me. He doesn't want to be committed. He wants to come and go as he pleases without having to tell me when and where. AT the same time, he says he wants to try to get back that "it" feeling and that"love"feeling and try to save our marriage. We don't sleep in the same room and have very little physical contact. No hugs, carresses or kisses. Is it over, is this just a midlifecrisis. I want to save my marriage. What can I do?? Is there hope if I am the only one really trying?? He refuses therapy or counseling or talking about it. How can I bring back that love we once had. I know it is there, or else he would have walked out by now. How can I convince him it is there and to let it out again?
