Yes, probably best that your son not come home. He does have to focus on his job, and not deal with stuff that is actually not his business to deal with. I don't see a problem with your going to visit him, and be able to say good-bye when he leaves ... just don't bring up the R with his mother. Make it light, fun, father/son stuff.
As for your wife running away between 16 and 18 ... the age gives away a part of why she would do that. Teens can perceive abuse in the softest of places, and if they continue on with that mindset into adulthood, they will always play the victim, no matter the R. I am just coming up with reasonable ideas here.
Otherwise, who knows why anybody does anything. Just when you think you're getting to know someone, they up and leave you, or have an A. And come up with all these memories, that you don't recall. They were unhappy for years, yet managed to live with it without saying anything. When I was unhappy during my M, I said something ... not that anything would get done or resolved, but at least, I conveyed my message. Or, am I the crazy one, and remembering things wrong.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
