I HAD been responding to those text, most of the advice I have received have been to avoid those responses. Advice from DB coach is to be "mysterious.". Well, maybe I just don't know how to interpret all of this advice. How to put it into action correctly.
She said for YOU to be mysterious, not your daughter's health/well being to become mysterious....
You can respond with a simple, she is fine, thank you for asking...
Insert yourself into that position next time...
What would YOU want ?
Originally Posted By: CS
TBH, I don't need going dark to protect myself. Contact with her does not hurt me. I just want to "do what works.". I just don't know what that is right now.
May you do need to be a little dark to find that out ?
Originally Posted By: CS
How do I determine when and when not to respond? She asks about D every time I have her, sick or not.
You get as good as you give....
Originally Posted By: CS
How does my particular sitch affect my actions?
There is still an element of superiority in your words, and your words become your actions....
Like, you deserve better, because it wasn't you that made this decision to separate.
Originally Posted By: CS
How do I reconcile being there for her more, since I wasn't in our M, to all of the other DB strategies?
I'm not sure you can force yourself into her life enough to be. Now isn't the time for words, it is the time for actions.
You aren't gonna talk your way out of something you acted your way into...
How do you see all of the communication problems from the past weekend as you being more "present" for her ?
