Standing up to the punches

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BITS, need some help here.

So during this entire process of D, there has been 0 contact from her family. In jan i called my MIL and talked to her and told her that to feel free to call and me up if needed. No contact.

This is not normal because my IL for the most part played big roles in our marriage because they said that they would help if our marriage was in crisis. And also we were close. What drives me nuts is whether my IL are okay with wife doing this. Last time i talked, MIL said that she did not know what our marriage was constantly in crisis and this time she's just gonna pray to decide on our marriage fate.

I am wondering if i should contact my FIL. To find out what he thinks of all this. I'd like to know if he's okay with this. Maybe it will give me some closure on whether i should drop the rope on this marriage or still hold on to the hope.

Because if her family is okay with all this, then my wife will never realize what she is throwing away. But if her family is not okay, maybe there still is hope.

My family tells me not to contact at all for i'll be putting myself down in their eyes. I am torn as to what to do you.

I'd love to know what you think?