New Phase - New Thread After 100 Pages

[BeingMe]

Good luck, BTM.

[BeTheMan]

The night went fairly well. It's amazing that when we are together, it's like nothing is wrong at all - like we haven't missed a day.

STBX cried during one song about a man not realzing how much he loves his woman until it's "A million kisses too late". I really enjoyed being with her last night, but did my best not to be too clingy.

When I dropped her off at her apartment, she kissed my cheek and said thanks. I then got out of the car and hugged her. She then said "maybe when my schedule changes (she's working crazy hours) we can play Scrabble together".

I am missing her today and want to call to say how much I enjoyed last night, but don't want to pressure her in any way.
Regardless of the outcome, it was an enjoyable evening, and for that I am grateful.

[BeTheMan]

I gave into temptation last night and texted STBX to say that I enjoyed the night and thought of her yesterday. Her responses were brief, but friendly. I did, at least end the "textversation".

Seeing her for even one night, sets me back a little, but nothing I can't handle.

[Starsky309]

I am missing her today and want to call to say how much I enjoyed last night, but don't want to pressure her in any way.

But yet, you thought it'd be a good idea, and went ahead and did it anyway.


Starsky

[BeTheMan]

It seems to be an accepted part of dbing to invite your STBX to participate in family things, so yesterday I texted mine to see if she wanted to go to D19's boyfriends playoff hockey game. She was too tired from working 15 hours the day before. I told her we would most likely be going out for dinner later, since I wouldn't have time to make the usual Sunday dinner for the kids and I. She said maybe she would join us.

I texted her later and she decided to come with us, even though she was not feeling well at all. Before we picked her up said to me on phone "Sorry, I look awful". I said "we don't need you for looks, just want you with us" and that "I look good enough for all of us". It was nothing fancy, but we had a nice dinner. It was the first time the whole family (we include D19's boyfriend in that) have been together in quite a while.

When we dropped her off she said bye to each of us individually and said "I love you all more".

The night really doesn't change anything, but at least we are back to being comfortable around each other and spending family time together. It looks like my decision to take her to the concert last week was a good one.

[BeTheMan]

Today when I dropped S17 off at work, STBX asked me if I was in a hurry. I said "not really" and she asked me to sit down. She showed me some game she is playing on her IPAD that she wanted me to try. I did and it sucked.

I stayed for a few minutes and as I was leaving, she said "Aren't you going to hug me?". I turned around and hugged her and left a minute later.

Sometimes, she acts odd for a woman who couldn't stay married to me and live in the same house.

[BeTheMan]

Right back to "normal".

I called STBX regarding some income tax ad kid stuff and she was very cold. I offered to stop by her place to pick up some paperwork and she made it very obvious I was to go no where near her house.

[BeTheMan]

Shortly after I typed the above post, STBX called regarding the tax stuff and was more friendly. She actually called twice and both times I ended the conversation. I asked if she was "better than before" and she claimed she was "watching a movie and not bothered" when I called.

6 years afte rmy frist visit and almost 2 years since I returned, and it still doesn't make sense to me!

[BeTheMan]

Here's the latest....

STBX and I both get calls from our tax preparer. I am getting a nice refund and she owes. On phone she's telling me how unfair that is - not taking incomes, deductions or anything else into consideration. Being very objective, she's doing better than she should be.

Anyway....she comments that "you are living in my house" - my response "you can live in it anytime you want". There was more, but no need to go into detail. Anyway, at the end of all of it, I say "it doesn't matter, because I will pay your tax bill out of my return". She seems less than grateful and has to go to get ready for work. I said "we can dicuss later".

So many men would be so much worse about this, but I am not going to start a fight over money over less than $2000. Let's see what the next covnersation about this brings.......

[BeingMe]

Weird.