Punchy, ask and you shall receive! BITS, thank you. All very good insight. Last night, I was at my wits end. But reading your posts really made me think about my W and her behavior. These posts gave me a new outlook on her behavior. This will help. I asked and I also received.

Well, I will meet with her one night this week to grant her the divorce she so badly wants and needs. I have decided that I am going to pay for the entire thing and handle all the paperwork. If she wants out, out she shall have. Unconditional love, right? This is all I have left to offer her. If she rejects it and me, I will then know that I did all I could. Yes, it will hurt to close the book on her. Probably the most painful episode of my life next to losing my father. But, I will walk away knowing I left the door open with a smile on my face. She never got that fight she so badly wanted. Man, if I had a dollar for every time she tried to bring out the old FOBD, I could pay my mortgage. But, she never got it and I guess she will spend the rest of her life wondering what happened. I guess that will be my second-to-last gift to you, wife.

Stay strong BITS!

FOBD

Me: 39
W: 36
T: 15 yrs
M: 9 yrs
S: 09/10

So you can get on with your search, baby
And I can get on with mine
And maybe someday we will find,
That it wasn't really wasted time...