I just want to "do what works.". I just don't know what that is right now.
First of all I have never really believed what we do here is a strategy.
A strategy means you are employing it to obtain some outcome. Now I know you want to save your M. That is a goal and it is a long road to get there not just one convo or sitch is going to turn that righ now.
You have been here 2 months and what have we been telling you?
Your DB coach is giving you good advice. Mysterious is good when it relates to you and what you are doing. If you are going to jump at every little crumb of contact she throws you...
Well that does not create mystery., She won't miss you. She won't see what it's like without Country.
That does not apply IMO to your children. When she is asking about the kids it ain't about you being mysterious.
Really it is fake it till you make it here Country. Always ask yourself why you are doing something.
Is it anger or something else provoking you? Impatience? Frustration?
If it is backed up by emotion it is probably the wrong reason. You must be consistent in your actions.
Do what works BUT it has to be real or she will see through you.
Might be time to back up a bit and remember what you said your changes were.
Who is the new Country. If you are confused by tactics then you don't know who you are yet. What you believe.
What you believe yourself to be. Uncertainty is a telling symtptom of that.
Back up and buck up Country.
How would the man you aspire to be handle this situation all the way back to the texts?
Forget about tactics right now. YOU?
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
