I have to admit, I am confused as ever right now. She knows that I would always let her know if something important came up. If she had to go to the doctor for example. Or if her sickness required a change in her daycare schedule. When I picked up D on Friday, I said "I'll let you know if anything changes.". Well, nothing changed, she was just sick all weekend. Her text to me were "how's she doing" etc.

I HAD been responding to those text, most of the advice I have received have been to avoid those responses. Advice from DB coach is to be "mysterious.". Well, maybe I just don't know how to interpret all of this advice. How to put it into action correctly.

TBH, I don't need going dark to protect myself. Contact with her does not hurt me. I just want to "do what works.". I just don't know what that is right now.


So questions now:

How do I determine when and when not to respond? She asks about D every time I have her, sick or not.

If my actions were inappropriate this weekend, do I say anything now? Appologize.

PEI, I have seen how thoroughly you have gone back through my sitch. How does my particular sitch affect my actions? How do I reconcile being there for her more, since I wasn't in our M, to all of the other DB strategies?

BITS

Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.