My Marriage in a Crisis

[ninelives]

Hello 4:

First thing to do is breathe and try and relax. Seems impossible but believe me, we have all been there when we though we wouldnt last another minute.

Also, please use paragraphs when telling your story. This makes it easier to read and you will get more responses.

Okay, I am not one of the vets and I am having trouble myself, but I think that I see some things that may of the vets will verify.

Your husband, I think is mourning the loss of the OW. This may not be a bad thing if it is truly over but you have to give him some space and not persue him, beg, cry, tell him you love him.

All of those are strictly No NO's in the world of Dbing. Most of us have tried those before and it never gets the response we want. If anything, it drives them further apart.

If PEI mom responds, she will give you a wealth of info to read that will bring these points home.

The most important thing to do while navigating this and by far the hardest is to not act on emotions. They will get you every time and make you do things that will make the situation worse.

Trust me on that again, I was the master of it and contiue to make some mistakes in that area.

My W came back last July but was still in love with OM so it did not work. I wasnt aware of OM but you are aware of the OP so that should explain his moods.

Now, what do you want to do about it? If you are still committed to your marriage, then this something that you will have to deal with despite the obvious pain.

Hang in there 4, there will be others along to help.

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