It's Time To Rock; Part II

[Redo]

Maybe you can set a rule. All info relating to daughter will get relayed(pick your communication method). Maybe you can just text her. So there you did set your boundary. If your wife crosses that boundary and expects more, then do your 180. In past if you were passive, then send a strong message back informing that you did what was needed and if she needed more then under the current situation that she has created it would not be possible. If you were the aggressive, then send back a more passive message that calms her down but still informs her of the situation.

my 2cents.