for most of our marriage the ML stayed at the same frequency. This last year was the only time it changed an it was an increase.
for many years in my M, I wasn't good about bringing it up. I'd hint around or expect her to read my mind. Then I'd get mad when she didn't response. We finally decided to be adults about it. i would ask for it directly and she let me know. Sh also decided to initiate more. Also, the pat couple years I think I mellowed a bit on sex.
We always knew we had different drives. But I think she really started to enjoy it more this past year. And I think she believes we will get to a place like last year of increased frequency. But it will take time. Heck, I am only, ONLY 5 months post bomb. I'm lucky my W lets me near her. I need to remind myself of that.
While the "sex -starved marriage book might be interesting. I don't think my W would really be interest. 1st the title is off-putting. 2nd, my W has Ph.D in Clinical Psychology and is very skeptical of 'self-help' type books. It doesn't help that MWD writes a blog for Psychology Today.
I do think my W looks great and I'd rather have her than any 21-year old.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
