Recovering after a same sex affair - Part 4

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In preparation for couples therapy and to show my W that I am supportive of her desire to meet a Parenting Coordinator, I found a few and sent emails to them yesterday. One of them called me back today and set me at ease about the process.

She mentioned that she works out of the box when it comes to finding solutions. To her, every family is different, so the best solution for the child is going to be different. She does not take sides and is completely neutral. She does not believe that there is a one custody arrangement that works best for every child. Instead, she feels keeping the dynamic between the two parents positive is the most healthy solution for the child. We talked about the 50/50 agreement that we have been working, and she told me that there are many different ways to structure it that work well.

She really put my fears to rest that this person that we don't know is going to come in and suggest full physical custody of my S to my W. Now the biggest hurdle is going to be the cost. She bills $150 an hour with a minimum of five hours to work with us. Ouch. We simply don't have that kind of money, so we will see if it changes my W's mind. I do think me making efforts to help her and support her in her desires to meet with somebody will go a long way and easing the tension of the situation.

On a different note, W did send me a text this morning letting me know that we may have a first tooth coming in for our boy. I'm really excited to see it, but I feel bad for him right now. He has been sick for weeks and now gets to add the pains of teething to his misery. Makes me sad for him.