Standing up to the punches

[Redo]

I have to say that after marriage, my wife did help me in developing abilities to deal with conflicts reasonably. That was great of her. But problem is that slowly she always justified her way of doing things. So what i did was to always justify her behavior and develop excuses for them. But deep inside i knew that some of what she was doing were hurting me. I became passive. That led me to get depressed and I was too scared to tell her all my thoughts because i thought that i would just make matters worse and that she would leave me.

What i am learning now is learning to set healthy boundaries so that i will not let myself get hurt. And I am learning to silence that 'little child' inside me and be more like a 'man'

Only regret is that we are very far gone in the D process that i'll just have to wait until the D is done and try to court her again.