I can understand not feelining equipped to deal with conflict situations. My parents NEVER fought so when my W wants to "win" an argument, she can just ramp up the intensity and I used to think "whoa, if it's really THAT important to you OK then." Didn't take her long to see the easy road to victory.
Sometimes it isn't a matter of being "right". It's a matter of making decisions together so both people can move on together. I tried to get my W to understand that. A work in progress, obviously.
Maybe that is something for your list - working on conflict management skills. For me, I have to learn that it is ok for me to have my own opinion and not give in right away (else I later resent it). It works better when we meet in the middle - even if I don't care about the decision I DO care that we reache it TOGETHER.
I learn a lot just by talking to people about the things they have gone through in their M and how they handled it. Actually, I usually feel better equipped to deal with my situation afterwards.
Anyway, sounds like you have been trying pretty hard to make your W happy - what would make YOU happy?
