Standing up to the punches

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Hi SL: Thanks for your help.

I am an only child and my parents fought a lot. So i was ill equipped to deal with conflict situations myself. So what ended up happening was that I blindly trusted that everything what my wife said is right. And that is mostly true. But hey even she is human and i do know that when it comes to life matters she feels she knows things better.

Yup after my parents visited us after our daughter was born and my mom and wife had a fight, i did lose myself. But after that my wife made some really hash choices with my parents like not allowing daughter to have a relationship with them, totally not speaking to them etc. So yes it was hard for me to reconcile these facts and i did feel i was losing it. But see these were situational. I don't have clinical depression. So when wife said that the marriage was getting toxic, I feel that she did contribute to it whether she realized it or not. But right now she does not agree. She feels that this was totally my doing.

So nope, I am not taking any antidepressants. To be honest in 2009 to make my wife happy, i ended up taking antidepressants, and even some bipolar medication because wife thought i might be bipolar. I feel that i really bent backwards taking those medications even though the doctor told me later that i did not need them.

Sometimes i just think a spouse needs to accept who you are and work with you to form a happy marriage. If a spouse cannot accept you for who you are and wants to change you, i think that is 'toxic'