The other thing that has me really confused is that I don't know if she has an idea of what "the man she wants" is. I'm taking my best guess at it, but I am struggling with knowing if I am guessing correctly or not.
Best not to look at it this way. Be the best person YOU can be. Deciding whether that new person is best for her? That is her choice.
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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
