I am going through this now. My sitch is different in that we don't have kids together. My W and I sat down one night and figured out what each of us wants. For me to go through this and not freak out, I have had to tell myself that my W has to get this D for her to get better and heal. Then we can start a new R. I am trying to be her friend when she needs one, other then that, I concentrate on me and fixing my problems. I spend more time with friends and meeting new ones.
