Well the weekend was interesting. H and I spent most of the weekend together (he didn't disappear at all yesterday) which was surprising. We actually unexpectedly had to pick up daughter at Union station in LA because Amtrak was working on the tracks between Orange County and San Diego. It turned into an unexpectedly fun little outing. We checked out the architecture of Union Station and enjoyed people watching (wow what a place to people watch). Then walked over to historic Olvera Street and later had lunch at Philippe's (famous cafe that his been in existence for over 100 years. Very fun. Later H helped me cook dinner and we enjoyed a great meal with our kids.
I was very happy to hear that S20 will be spending the summer home with us. I sure miss him when he is away at school.
All in all...very nice weekend. Busy but it seemed very relaxing and adventurous as well.
Still keeping my hands to myself. It has been well over a week with no sex. Like DB Coach suggested, I am trying to make myself more attractive in "other ways".
Song for the day: "Save Room" John Legend
Me - 49 H - 56 S - 23 D - 20 Married 25 years H moved out 10/11/13 H moved back in 10/13/13 H moved out again 8/1/14
NOPE! I am trying to be less pursuing so it has been over a week for us. I wonder if this is the right thing since one of his main issues with me two years ago was the not initiating thing. Oh well. If it happens it happens.
I am trying to focus on other ways of being "attractive" per my DB Coach. It does kind of hurt that he hasn't made any advances lately....the last time was great though. Out in backyard/jacuzzi in middle of night. Pretty fun actually. And before he left for work that day, he said he loved me (he said it first though) which is not his typical M.O. And we really don't say it that much.
So....nothing since then! But...I bought some great new lingerie...Some day it may come in handy.
Song for the evening: "Fix it" Ryan Adams & The Cardinals
Me - 49 H - 56 S - 23 D - 20 Married 25 years H moved out 10/11/13 H moved back in 10/13/13 H moved out again 8/1/14
Last night worked on homework. Has anyone ever read the play and watched the Dustin Hoffman version of Death of a Salesman? Wow...powerful.
I made dinner (helping to create more unity in the family environment per my DB coach) last night. D17 helped. H said it was gross. OMG! Last time I made it he loved it. What's that about? My two golden retrievers were lucky enough to get the leftover halibut. THEY LOVED IT!
Headed to work. Feeling good and not sure why?
Song for the day: "Wish I Didn't Know Now" Toby Keith
Me - 49 H - 56 S - 23 D - 20 Married 25 years H moved out 10/11/13 H moved back in 10/13/13 H moved out again 8/1/14
So DB Coach suggested working on getting other family members to help me around house/prepare dinner, etc...
I asked H to take the cooking dinner task for last night earlier in the week and he came through last night! I didn't have to call and remind him or anything. I hadn't talked to him at all throughout the day so I fully expected that when I came home from class that I would have to do it myself. Nice little surprise!
D17 is handling dinner tonight so I can work in our office. DB Coach was right. I don't need to do everything on my own. It is good for her to shop and cook. Basic life skills.
I did blow my ML plan...oops.
Off to work in a few....have a great day. It is supposed to be 80 degrees today. Maybe spring is finally here!
Song for the day: "Higher Ground" Stevie Wonder
Me - 49 H - 56 S - 23 D - 20 Married 25 years H moved out 10/11/13 H moved back in 10/13/13 H moved out again 8/1/14
How many times have you posted -- either here or on Newcomers -- some version of "Why does he DO this to me???!"
Here's a hint as to the answer: it's the same reason dogs lick themselves.
Seriously, he's going to do this again, and soon. How you handle it -- and to what extent you handle it DIFFERENTLY this time -- is going to be a defining moment in the rest of your life.
Yesterday had a great day. Woke up....H actually asked me if I wanted to go to San Clemente with him while he met with client. I said yes! I love that sometimes I don't have a plan for my day and that it could go in any direction. So of course I said YES! H thought client meeting would be maybe an hour. I knew better.
He dropped me off on the main street of downtown San Clemente around 9am. Super cute little town. Nothing much was open yet...but whoa...I found Cafe Mimosa. Out of this world breakfast spot and I had a lingonberry mimosa and read my book "The Art of Racing in the Rain" about an old dog (told from his point of view).....so Starsky...the dog licking themselves reference is well noted. Thank you.
Couldn't have planned a better morning alone. Then...H was still not done......so I walked down to Semper Fi Memorial Park overlooking the Pacific and read the plaques about our wonderful soldiers and their commitment to our country. Really put my troubles in perspective. They put their lives on the line EVERY DAY.
Later walked to Casa Romantica...the founder of San Clemente's historic Spanish Colonial home overlooking the ocean. Fantastic! $5 walking tour. Worth every penny. Lots of Caifornia history. This little expedition was all on my own. LOVED IT. Maybe a favorite day ever. Plus...I knew that H was actually meeting with client....not just telling me he was. Maybe that made it more peaceful. Don't know.
This a.m. H and I have been working on setting out the garden and then he made a list of things to "get" around 9:30 and he still isn't home. And like a bliming fool...I called a few times. H finally called at 1:00 but I was in the shower and haven't called him back. Side note...when he does call on the weekends after being gone for notable period of time...it is always on the hour like I am a job or something. He'll call at 1:00pm sharp....or 2:00pm sharp....you get the drift.
So that is the end of our weekend.....hope you are all well.
Song for the day: "It's Too Late" Carole King
Me - 49 H - 56 S - 23 D - 20 Married 25 years H moved out 10/11/13 H moved back in 10/13/13 H moved out again 8/1/14
A new day. School tonight. Finalized D17's college housing/meal plans yesterday. It really hit me hard that she is leaving in just a few short months.
I played hooky yesterday and it felt good. H asked me if I wanted to get coffee....went to S'bucks. Then came home and watched a movie for my class. Before H left for work, he set up the movie for me, got me a blanket and pillow, even made me a little breakfast snack. He was being super nice and attentive. Why? not sure. He acted a bit funny when he came home Sunday afternoon and was chewing gum. Maybe he had gone for drinks/lunch with OW before our guests arrived later in the day? Not sure. I think he could sense that I was irritated with him being gone so long when HE suggested that we have company over (folks we haven't socialized with in at least 5 years...) and also, he didn't answer his phone and then he said he went up to one of the jobsites to retrieve a tool for our backyard project that he ended up NOT bringing home. Am I an idiot? Probably! Struggling to take the high road.
So maybe that is what all of the niceness was yesterday. He even came home early from work and we cooked together. That was really nice.
Song for the Day: "I Shall Believe" Sheryl Crow
Me - 49 H - 56 S - 23 D - 20 Married 25 years H moved out 10/11/13 H moved back in 10/13/13 H moved out again 8/1/14
