Just continue to work on your GAL. It will greatly improve your mental health, and from my experience, it will keep all of this from consuming your life so much, because other things are now consuming it. It also helps with being able to upbeat in your spouse's presence because you're excited about the things you're doing to GAL.
One thing my DB coach told me early on is he (in my case she) is not responsible for your happiness. You need to take that pressure off of him.
