Am I doing everything wrong?

[Confused423]

Ya know...it's funny. I did ALOT of reading on the site yesterday and I'm coming to realize that everything I have been doing (except for the GAL) has been for H's benefit. I have been so focused on getting him to come back home that I have not taken the time to really focus on me and what makes ME happy. From what I have been reading, it's important to let go and move on "as if" I completely agree that the marriage is over, but to quietly keep working on the changes that need to be made in me. Am I reading that correctly...is that the whole basis??

I know that I probably sound erratic, but this is all so hard and I just never know if I am doing things right or not. I'll do really well for a little while and then I fall right back into the same old habits.

My H and I have been together since we were 19 and I really want to stay married, but my H is with someone else now and I have to accept that he is "happy" and unwilling to come home so that I can move on and truly begin a new life with or without him.

I'm hurting today as I just feel like it is all slipping through my fingers and there is nothing that I can really do about it...does everyone else feel that way too??

I would really appreciate it if someone could get back with me...I need some guidance!!

Hope ya'll are having good days