Seems to be the theme to the party that we have all attended.
It does feel like that.
Here is the thing...
Our S's, are acting on their feelings. It may seem like they have this all planned out, but they don't. And acting on feelings, makes things confusing and complicated.
When someone really plans an exit strategy (at least that I have witnessed), it is pretty clear to anyone paying attention, that there is SOMETHING going on.
Being in two different states with children, is something that you are going to have to think long and hard about. It may not be the best for any of you.
Your old life, it is what got you to this mess to begin with.
I will repeat, that you didn't cause her MLC, that would have happened regardless, but you did act in ways that made it easier for her to make you the bad guy.
So, I will disagree, that will NOT get you off of this rollercoaster.
Only you have the power to do that. You can continue to ride it, or you can join others on the platform to watch.
How?
Can't really tell you that cuz it is different for each of us.
Some suggestions...
Work through this initial shock and start to figure out what the business of each day is...
Get things done that need to get done...
And see how you feel and where that leads...
Stepping is necessary and the first one is always the hardest because we get too focused on it being the wrong step...
You can always backtrack if you have to... or make a right turn...
Just get to steppin'... (nickle Brook )
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
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