Like if I had only done something different in the past...been a better partner...listened more...done things different.
What's if's and woulda, coulda, shoulda, will make you nuts.
When you take a good hard look at yourself, do you like the man you see? Why or why not? Are there things about you that you want to change? The change has to be for you, because you aren't who you choose to be. If it isn't, it won't work and isn't worth your energy.
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I'm seriously thinking of taking them back to CA with me and filing there. I'm trying to think what's best for them and am very unsure...
Why would taking them back be best? You sound like you're really trying to think this through. If you're not sure, wait until you are. Are the advantages for you or for them?
I found that listing the pros and cons was helpful for me. At one point I was considering moving with D's. In my case, it wouldn't have been best and I would have been running away. Of course, I could rationalize that I wasn't. It took some time (and good feedback) to think it through.
