Well country song, i did set clear boundaries. My motivation for this is my children. Right now, my D7 get sick when she doesnt see her mom. My SS15 has an addiction to pot and i am trying to help him and is only excuse whe gave me was "my life is so fuc&&& up, no one wants me and this helps". SS13 has become very violent and nasty with his siblings and friends. S9 has withdrawn and isnt happy like he used to be.
My motivation is crystal clear. My children need their mom home with them. The best outcome would be for us to fix our family. But thats not what i am working on now. My kids need all the support they can get.
On numerous occasions, we have talked and she knows if she comes home she cant leave. It would be too hard on the kids. I think that is why she is taking her time on this decision. Her mom and grandmother have both told her she cant play with the kids emotions by coming and leaving at her whim.
I have to think that her considering this is her way of reaching out. She was a great mom, she lost her way and got involved with some bad decisions. I dont think a mom can walk away like that and not regret it. So for my kids sake i will do this. If she comes home, i will smile all the time, showcase the new improved loving father i am. Hopefully that will show her that my changes are here and permenant.
