Hi Stunned. You seem to be moving quite fast yourself compared to your W. Just thinking about having another, possible R this early into your sitch is too soon to contemplate. Forgiveness/trust/forgetting too, would be too soon, but in the end, forgiveness would be for you more than for her.
At this point, I would advise you just work on the here and now ... GAL, detaching, and doing what you need to do to protect yourself financially.
Just my thoughts.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim