Your W sounds just like my H. Totally checked out, not wanting to listen to anything. Their feelings for us are dead and nothing we say or do can change their minds at this point. My H dropped the bomb on me 1/25 and just moved out on 4/2. I was a basket case for about the 1st month. You know what? It gets easier. Detach while you are still living together. I'm not saying that it will be easy. I woke up most mornings feeling like someone had punched me in the stomach when I remembered that my husband was abandoning me.
Do you still want to save your M? If so, I don't think ignoring her is going to put you in a positive light in her eyes and may not be the best thing to do at the moment..even though all you want to do is be mean and hurt them like they are hurting you.
My H and I managed to remain friendly for the 2 months until he moved. It was hard coming home to an empty house, but not nearly as bad as I thought it would be. I truly think it's because I KNEW it was coming and I had a long time to accept it. I told myself that he was moving regardless and there was nothing I could do about it. Am I still angry? Hell yes. I'm so angry right now, I could spit nails. I read on here, I don't know who wrote it, but it has helped me immensely:
"You only give up when YOU are ready to give up. When you think you are DONE, give it 48 hours."
In the meantime, do things that make YOU feel good about yourself and happy. Easier said than done, I know. My DB coach told me that the only way we can have a chance of getting them back is if we let them go first...AND we have to be ok letting them go.
Sorry you're going through this BS too!
Me: 35 H: 33 M: 3 1/2 years, together 6 years No kids Bomb #1: ILYBNILWY 1/25/11 Signed 6 month lease: 3/16/11 Separated: 4/2/11 I'm moving..alone: 9/27/11
