It's Time To Rock; Part II

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That said, I still stand by my comments above. Compassion is needed in these situations, however, that does not mean we have to agree with the actions of the WAS. Like I said, I understand that she would not have walked away from a healthy R, but it is also not an excuse to have an A. I think there is a line there between understanding and compassion and making excuses for what the WAS is doing. An A is never an appropriate, healthy or positive response to the problems in a M. We all know here that there is another choice. Even if the choice becomes leaving the M, there are better ways to handle the situation.

Ok … so ….

Did you give her pants back?

Of course, first thing in the morning before I left.

Things went further than I had intended/expected. I guess alcohol can do that.

I'm sorry CS, what did you expect could happen while drinking alcohol with an attractive member of the opposite sex, YOU MET ON A DATING SITE, while you are emotionally vulverable? If this didn't have red flags all over it I don't know what would. There are reasons GALing at a time like this makes sense with same-gendered friends or groups.

Listen, I didn’t like it when it was said to me, anymore than you’re going to like it as I say it to you. It’s about time to stop focusing on her A, why, well, let’s call a spade a spade … you’ve had your own. I’m not judging you CS, trust me, I’m in no place to and it’s not my job. I also know the string of rationalizations and justifications that you want to send in my direction … she did it first … she checked out … why can’t I have some love and attention … it was just sex … I was drunk … I didn’t mean for it to happen … I got carried away. I know them because I used many of them myself.

It doesn’t change the fact that you are married and want to save this thing. YOUR actions need to align with WHO you are, not what you feel someone else has done TO you.

Peace
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