You've said nothing wrong. There isn't much to say though. It's good you're keeping track of the little things that are good. IMHO though you need to detach a bit more. Seems to me you're holding your breath waiting for a good thing or a bad thing to happen. That's no way to live.
BITS Me-51, WAS-52 Kids 2 M-26yrs, H.left 2009, 2 more Bomb drops, Reconnection spring 2013 Change is inevitable, personal growth is a choice. Love is a action and choice you make, every day.
Well its sunday wife has been away all weekend with S11.Tried to call her to see why I could not get ahold of S (they were at a wrestling meet)And when she did answer 2 hours later came to find out that W left S at hotel with another family and took off to party with a "family friend" all night. This on top of an A with a man 10 minutes away from house! As well as soliciting sex on craigs list from other couples. Im a mess.
On a lighter note I went back to church this morning after many many years with step daughter 21 and stepdaughter 19. It really made me feel loved. They are furious with their mother and her teenage ambitions. They refuse to talk to her right now because they feel that she is throwing away something she cant see the value of now (me,S14,S11,DD3).
Have been up all night reaserching WAW MLC. I now really know what this is.
Where could I find on the BB success stories of MLBS who have come through this and renewed their marriages.I need something to give me hope.
I have been detatching as best I can while in the same house but she spends as much time away from here as she can, such as bars and OM.
I know what I have to do,but still dosnt make it any easier.
What are some steps I can take to try and lovingly draw her back, Do thease A last. I need some input please. I know what
Had a real breakthrough.W was way suspicious when I went out and met with a friend who suggested That I go home after a few hours and take a shower when I got home. The W went balistic and Q me about everything was a real wake up call for me.
Retrieved my paper (my S ssi) and found some psychic reading results that said that OM was not the answer and that she is going to get S14 counciling, that I was a crutch????
I have been DBing my A$$ of and it seems to me that she has every intension of going through with the divorce.
She is very susceptible to readings card spreads ect. Her surragate mother is a medium and she has been clinging very close to her Im sure.What ever she says its written in stone.
I dont know how to get her to notice the changes I'm implicating.
Is there still love underneath all the hurt anger and resentment?after 14 years?
How can I trigger a land slide of good memories and create some good feelings?
W is in court now (shes a temp GAL)and will walk to local bar later today since I have to pick up kids. I asked her "Do you want me to pick you up after picking up D3 or do you want me to come get you after I drop her off? She responded "you can come over and hang with me awhile" Me- "I dont want you to feel awkward" W- " I dont feel awkward its ok" Me- Are you asking me to join you for awhile?" W- "yeah its ok"
Is this a blessing in disguise to spend time with her in a non threatning manner and be friendly? To be her friend right now I feel would be a building block to softening her heart? baby steps.
Afraid OM might be there. If he is how do I handle this all our interaction lately has been on the phone and at home.
Bobby, take a couple of breaths slowly. I hope by now you have met your W and had a friendly time showing her the great guy you are. She asked you to join her right?
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
W was there she was soooo cold and distant. Then OM walks in and I go to excuse myself my gut was in a knot. I could not stay there... I ask her that she could find a ride home im sure She says what do you mean (vicious by now) Me- I know about your affair with OM She asks me to leave (denial and hatred) Denies everything we are just friends blah blah I walk out yet she comes home @ 10:00pm a first boy did I screw up\
How could I have handled this differently? Is there any hope now ....?
