Yes, I guess the thing is that those of us who are MLCers partners have a lot to recover from.

The personal attacks. Screaming and yelling, in my instance. Deep betrayals. The way our children were treated (and in my instance, still are treated). Losing our ILs, in my case. Depression, frustration, loneliness.

Part of me still wants some kind of explanation for what happened.


M: 16 years
Bomb 4/07
OW 20s long gone
Divorced 11/09
I remarried New Guy
Cooperative r w/X regarding D